He & She: Getting closer

Through the all differences between the races, social layers the difference between male and female goes primary in our consciousness. Relationships between men and women are may be the most important and serious question for our life. If we don`t solve it, our existence is sentenced to be endless and absurd. We shall suffer, have elusion, come across endless obstacle, disappoint and do the same mistakes again.

Men and women know very little about one another. They live together, work, love each other, quarrel. They are indignant to the opinion of opposite sex. But they don`t understand >each other actually. The more they know about each other the easily for them to understand and to admit the opinion of the opposite sex. In the section there is information that will help you to understand each other better. It is very important to understand that neither male nor female is better. They are just different.

Men and women speak different languages

One linguist from Australia Jennifer Peck had been analyzing dialogues between men and woman for six years. And she got to conclusion: men and women speak different languages.

Women are inclined to interrupt one another, to speak at the same time, to discuss several themes at the same time.

Men prefer to speak in turn. Because the dialogue for them is a race in winning an initiative. And logic, proof, persuasion are necessary for it. It is not important for women.

The plot of a talking between women is to change the information or experience about cooking, upbringing children and intimate relation. Men prefer to show their competence in business, sport, intimate relation. Men like more to discuss their success but women - their fault.

Using the same words men and women seldom mean the same. Ti express their feeling more interesting women use different poetic cues: exaggerating, generalizing. Men comprehend them exactly. It is their mistake. And, as a result, they react so that it is difficult to find support in their words. For example, when a woman is saying: " I have the feeling that you never listen to my words", she doesn`t expect that word "never" will comprehend exactly. She uses it to express the disappointment she`s feeling at that moment. So there is no need to comprehend this word as some information.

word for translation of woman`s word can mean a quite different thing for a man who got used to explain only facts with his speech.

"Confusion" and "order

In physics there are two conceptions: "confusion" and "order". Whole physics stands on a playing of the two conception: one of them is eager to make order ( the power of order) and the other is destroying it (the power of confusion). If the first one is in superiority so everything will stop if it reaches the order. To create a new thing the power of confusion is necessary to destroy the order. But if confusion destroys it is passing by. Then time of order comes in again, the time of recreate the new things in new changed conditions.

So "confusion" - is manifestation of man`s beginning and "order" - woman`s. if confusion in is superiority, the system is destroying, if order is in superiority the system stops to develop and destroys itself. So it is necessary to strive for compromise and remember that all the new things can organize when the old things are destroyed. But to create the new things it is necessary to support who will be building.

Every union of a man and a woman is a playing of the two powers. A man destroys stable situation regulary. And he sets up a possibility for the beginning plans for future. But the plans will be mostly realized by a woman. A man says there will be a "town-garden" here in four years. But it will be in the case if a woman creates it.

As a result women consider that men are egoists. Because men always think about what they have`t reached yet, but not about they have already reached. They need to go on forward.

And a woman feels lack of attention and care.

It is impossible to tie a man to one place to make him to do the same. But it is not his fault that he needs to run somewhere all the time, to do something, to set up new goals. Men are evolution "landing" that is sending to conquer new areas that must move and move all the time.

Manifestation sex differences in life`s goals

From the early childhood men have a wish to get something successes. Their conceit builds mostly on progress in work. So achievements in such an important area in creation are basic of development of man`s personality. Ambition and social interests are in superiority.

Man`s feeling itself is definited how well he is able to reach high results. Only success give them a lifefull feeling. Their interests are concentrated on things (cars, computers, top technologies), that are able to help them in reaching more successful results. Because to reach a result is very important for man. It is a way to prove that he is worse something and it give him moral satisfaction.

For a man many things in his life are connected with his job, with a means that the job gives. When he loses his job, he loses respect to himself. For women success in love still remounts the definite mean of development. Love and maternity feelings are in superiority. Private is higher than social.

A woman`s feeling itself is definited by her feelings and quality of her relationship with her friends. They have other value: love, talking, beauty, a world of human relationship. A woman perceives human relationship more sensitive than men, who can not notice the eyes full of tears, lips that trembled and unusual silence. A women spends a lot of time on care, support and help one another. They realize their selves in contacts in possibility to share their feelings. Intimate attitude is more important for them than a job and top technologies. Feelings of pity and compassion are women`s feelings. They like to take care of a weak and sick person, criticize, teach children and husbands. They perceive very close: a child`s tears and an illness of any dear person is a tragedy.

If for a woman relationship with other people is the first, but a man can even ignores them. For example, he can not notice that a woman is hardly upset, or that she had changed her hairstyle, or had put on a new dress. So women often accuse men for heartless and indifferent behaviour. And men accuse women that they mind not their own business. But you mustn`t forget that a man is worried about his own business much more. He is indifferent to interests of other people.

For men a success in their job - a basis of success in love. But for women success in love is the first. It proves that a woman satisfies her requirement in talking and support when she enters in contact with workmates. Women need praise and reward more than men. Even when she realizes that her job was done well, she needs her job to be marked for more satisfaction. Men like praise and reward as well. But if he is sure that he made his job well he will have high opinion about himself, even if it isn`t approved by other people. Motionless style of life is characteristic of women. They need security. Men are always more independent and mobile, like traveling, have tendency to risk. Women are obeyed to environment more than men.

So for men the basis for happiness is success in job and for women success in love, in relationships with other people.

TНЕ LIFE STIMULUS

The life stimulus for a man is a consciousness that he is in need, he is somewhat's hope and a woman simply experiences the necessity to feel support and reassurance of the kindred spirit.

Man has the emotional ascent and tide of power when he feels his necessity. In the relation with woman a man without this sensations gradually loses the activity and energy, and capables to invest in these relations less of them. But when man feels that woman believes him, values his efforts, directed on the satisfaction of her needs, he is ready for greater full bore.

When man does not feel that his presence in any life changes it to the best, he lose his interest in the life and relations with woman. It is necessary to feel that he is valued, the woman believes and take such as he is, with all positive and negative character's features. The conciousness of his life's pointless is the slow death for him.

Woman senses the emotional ascent and tide of power, when she knows that there is somebody who is possible to worry about her. It she doesn't feell this care in the relations with man, woman will gradually grow old from unilateral responsiblity, from the neccessity that she happens to devote too much. On the other hand, feelling the care and respect men, she blooms in full sense of the word and also capable to invest in these relations full bore.

Woman senses the emotional ascent and tide of power, when she knows that there is somebody who is possible to worry about her. It she doesn't feell this care in the relations with man, woman will gradually grow old from unilateral responsiblity, from the neccessity that she happens to devote too much. On the other hand, feelling the care and respect men, she blooms in full sense of the word and also capable to invest in these relations full bore.

It is important for woman to feel that she is beloved and that she is not one. When she falls into confusion, when she is tired or when she is bad, a woman needs to know, that she is not one that the kindred soul, ready to come on help? Is alongside her. The man considers that if person is bad, it is better to leave him at rest. Therefore it is difficult for woman so it is difficult to get necessary support - an empathy and comprehension - from man.

If man will ask woman: "What is happened?", these word and alarmed expression of his face will act the most benefical image on it. But if the same question with the same expression of face woman will ask to man, he can feel itself humiliated: since he can solve that woman does not believe in his skill to cope with difficulty.

Thereby, man needs for confidence, woman - in care.